Controversial Topics, Life Lessons, Parenting, Religion/Faith, Self Image/Self Worth, Standards/Morals
We like to blame teenagers for being the biggest example of this, but we are all guilty of it. Teens don’t love taking advice from their old, out-of-touch parents. They will however, take advice from their peers quite readily, or those who they’ve decided they can relate to. “Mom just doesn’t get it, but so and so does.” Mom could have the exact same advice as so and so, but it just doesn’t hit home when the listener feels like they can’t relate to the advice giver.
I’m pretty guilty of this. ‘Sure my neighbor is really good at such-and-such because she’s got this going for her that I don’t.’ ‘She’s got it together, but she’s a stay at home mom, I work….’ Excuses, excuses. And it gets worse. I’ve done it to myself so badly that I have a confession to make:
Korihor is an infamous account found in the Book of Mormon, of a man who’s teachings were counter to God’s truth, although subtle and very appealing. Because of this, he had much success in his day. The scriptures provide us with this account to enable us to recognize similar teachings in our day to avoid the deception. Korihor’s teaching that “ye cannot know of things which ye do not see” is the philosophy that all ideas and knowledge are derived from and can be tested by experience, that we only know things that we experience through our senses: sight, smell, touch, hearing, or taste. Since spiritual experiences involving revelation from God rarely pass through the senses of sight, smell, touch, hearing, or taste, those who hold to Korihor’s philosophy count them as meaningless.
My daughter likes to be right and likes proof before she accepts anything. One day her and I were at the checkout counter in a store. She was fixed on a filled balloon taped to the counter. “Mom,” she said “I don’t get it. When I blow up balloons, they don’t float. Nothing is holding up this balloon, I checked. So how come this one is floating?”
I did. I said that a lot. Thankfully I had a patient dad who sat next to me during one of those many homework meltdowns. Actually I should rephrase that: homework/drama queen-hormonal teenage girl/master procrastinator meets middle of the night exhaustion with WAY too much to do, due in a few hours, supposed to be sleeping/the homework pile all the sudden unleashes every stress & emotion and somehow seems symbolic of how chaotic and overwhelming my WHOLE LIFE is…MELTDOWNS. So naturally, I point my finger to the “stupid screwed-up education system” as the source of all my problems. If only those lame educators would recognize that most of us are not going to need to know this stuff, let alone how to solve for these advanced mathematics without a calculator! How practical is that? Are future employers going to fire upon seeing me pull out a calculator? UGH.
So let’s get real! One common thing I hear from folks who’ve been through the ringer (that they would REALLY like to change) is: “People can be so insensitive. I know they probably don’t mean to come off rude, but seriously… I wish people would think before they speak.” I started hearing so many crazy comments these sufferers have received that I just had to make a list and write a post about this…
CONVERSION SERIES PREFACE:
This passage from Elder Kim Clark’s recent conference address hit me like a volt of electricity and has continued to ring loudly in my heart & mind: